2018 – a year of BIG changes

Hi Everyone Its taken me a while to put this post together as I didn’t  want people to think that this was a New Years Resolution, because this journey started many years ago. But now that everyone has finished their NEW YEAR NEW ME posts it feels the right time to let you in on…

Happy Brighton Pride everyone

I hope everyone has the most FLABULOUS time this weekend. Ill be there, blowing my whistle, cheering everyone along and enjoying far too much Vodka and Redbull 🙂  

The love affair is over….

This is one of the hardest posts I have ever had to write. Its never easy when a love affair ends, especially when this particular love affair has lasted almost my entire lifetime. Noone wants to admit when a relationship becomes toxic, when one is damaged by the continued need for the object of your…

My problem with Fathers Day…

This is a really difficult post to write but in the interest of full disclosure I couldn’t not write it. Both the Dazzler and I have difficult relationships with our Fathers. Both had absentee fathers during childhood and both still haven’t resolved these issues. My Dad is charm itself. People love him and when you are with…

Its a Middle Aged thing…

Today I turn 45. I realise that 45 is not considered a ‘big’ birthday by many but as I tell anyone that will listen – I’m now officially half way to 90.  It is a sobering thought that with my health levels and the average life expectancy for males it is its unlikely that I will make 90…

My Kitchen Makeover

When you move there are always compromises. We gave up our beautiful open fire and wonderful garden in favour of offroad parking, an upstairs bathroom and a kitchen about 3 times the size of our last one. Those of you who have followed my along this journey will know that cooking (and eating) are very…

Fat shaming – great interview with Beth Ditto

The LGBT community, which prides itself on its inclusivity, has an exclusivist side.  Cliques develop in many communities but the  ideals placed on gay men and women about  how they should look and act are one of the leading causes of depression within the LGBT community. Whether it’s butch vs femme, focussing on the body…